Building Safeness: How to get intimate with our inner critic

It all starts and ends with us. Forgiveness, reconciliation and integration. The three steps to openhearted, openminded loving, living and giving.

Ottawa Mindfulness Clinic

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We all want to feel safe. It’s important. When we feel safe, we feel confident and more willingly open ourselves to new experiences. In fact, feeling safe leads to the willingness to take risks – to risk being known, being seen, loving and feeling loved. As we encounter the world in all its various ways of showing us what being safe means, we learn to open and close our hearts (and minds) when we feel respected or rejected. Paul Gilbert¹, the developer of Compassion Focused Therapy, uses the term “safeness” to describe the experience of being safe. It’s different from “safety” or “safety-seeking” which tend to be what we do when we are engaged in the threat evaluation/response processes.

There are many things in our environment that we have learned are safe and many we have learned are unsafe. Hot stoves, fast-moving traffic, dark alleys and the like are easy to discern in…

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One comment

  • Hi Christina,

    Wanted to say thanks for this great re-blog. Thank you so much for sharing it.

    Hope you are doing well and having a peaceful, inspired Monday!! 😉

    Always happy to see you pop by my site – thank you!

    Hugs,

    Allison xo

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